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from and consequences of spiritual abuse Recovery from and consequences of spiritual abuse *Let Nothing Be Wasted- An article by Susan. "During a conversation with a minister who has an Apologetics site
online, I told him that I had been in the UPCI for over 35 years. He
said in his loud booming voice, "35 YEARS? WOW! JUST THINK OF ALL
THOSE WASTED YEARS!" I didn't say anything to him at the time, but it
was one of those comments that just kind of cuts into a tender spot."
*(1 Corinthians 11:24-25 NASB) - Remembrance- Unfortunately some churches teach communion in a way which creates fear in the heart of the believer. Are they partaking unworthily? Will God strike them dead? Some avoid communion or wrestle greatly with this fear. Jim Ross, a former UPC member, brings out the truth that we partake in communion to remember our Lord. It should be a good time and not one of fear and dread.
Dispelling the Myths: The Psychological Consequences of Cultic
Involvement- Paul Martin explains and evaluates some misconceptions about
involvement in abusive groups and gives seven steps to recovery.
Psychological
Recovery From Mental Abuse- Ruth Gordon briefly covers some issues which
effect those who have left abusive groups.
*Recovery From
Cult Involvement- Short piece by Jan Groenveld, listing some factors
which may effect recovery.
*Stages in
Recovery- Jan Groenveld lists three main stages in the recovery process,
with a brief explanation of each.
*It Hurts-
Former cult members describe how it felt when they finally left their group.
Originally from the Cult Awareness & Information Centre web site.
Repairing
The Soul After A Cult- From the AFF "Cult Observer" site, Janja Lalich
tackles the issues one faces after leaving a cult. Personal insight.
Recovery
from Spiritual Abuse: How You Can Help- by Sharon Hilderbrant as posted
on the Darkness to Light web site. Discusses the recovery process, including
trust, emotions, God, church, untwisting Scriptures, and more.
Picking
Up the Pieces- by Craig Branch. "The extent of re-entry problems depends
on the degree of controlling techniques in place in the group, how long the
person has been in the group, and the emotional maturity of the person."
Counseling-
by Paul R. Martin, founder of Wellspring. "Another problem is that the focus
on the more visible cults can obscure the fact that there are thousands of
small cults that never make media headlines, but are just as dangerous (often
more so) as the major groups."
Touch
Not Mine Anointed?- Is there a special anointing on ministers, that we
should not question them? John Anderson gives a short explanation.
Are "God's Anointed" Beyond Criticism?- Is criticizing your
pastor equivalent to rejecting God? A more detailed look into not touching
"God's anointed" by Hendrik Hanegraaff.
Christians Criticising Christians: Can It Be Biblical?-
Bob & Gretchen Passantino discuss if it's right or wrong to publicly
evaluate the teachings of a pastor or expose the immorality of a Christian
leader.
Authority
Unlimited- Sample chapter from the book, "Twisted Scriptures", gives
another look at "touch not my anointed."
Beyond
Accountability- Another sample chapter from "Twisted Scriptures." In
church, but feeling like you're in prison? Must we always obey and trust
church leaders?
Truth
and Consequences: Exposing Sin in the Church- Bob & Gretchen Passantino
explain the need to expose sin in the church. "One would think that our outspoken
faithfulness to truth telling would extend to telling the truth about sin
within the Church. And yet at this point many Christians shrink from truth
telling, instead hiding behind empty platitudes such as "don't judge;" "forgive
and forget;" "don't shoot your own wounded;" "look at all the people who
came to the Lord through this ministry;" etc."
*A Shepherd and His Flock
- An article by Buddy Martin. "Keep these ideas in view --- gentleness, watchman, guardian,
feeder, tenderness, not quarrelsome, kind to all, able to teach, and
patient when wronged. All these ideas are incorporated into what a
true Biblical pastor is to exhibit. Why is this? Because these are the
spiritual traits in the Great Shepherd. They are communicated to
each of His undershepherds by the Holy Spirit."
Abuse of Authority in the Church: A Biblical Perspective of Leadership
- An article by Jason Young. "The Bible indeed gives a certain level of spiritual authority to church leadership, but all too often such authority is abused and misused, going well beyond what the scriptures allow."
Authoritarianism
in The Church- From the Founder's Journal, written by Steve Martin, this
article covers what the author perceives as some causes to the abuse of authority
in the church. He also touches on where the 'sheep' err in perpetuating the
problem.
The
Thin Line of Leadership Part One- When does a minister/leader cross the
line between leading and lording, discipling and dominating? Is it done
intentionally? Steven Lambert gives his thoughts on the issue.
The
Thin Line of Leadership Part Two- In part two, Steven Lambert gives his
reasons how and why leaders cross the line. (I disagree with the implication
that victims of abusive leaders are willing subjugates.)
The
Language of Enslavement- Sample chapter from the book "Twisted Scriptures"
discusses how leaders can distort words and Scripture to control members.
Churches On The Fringe- An article by Ron Enroth, exploring what unhealthy churches have in common. He touches on control-oriented leadership, isolationist attitudes, spiritual elitism, lifestyle rigidity, discouragement of dissent and painful exit. This article touches on the now dissolved Community Chapel Church, an independent Oneness Pentecostal church that became unhealthy.
The Signs of Spiritual Abuse- Feeling like something
just isn't right at your church? Has the joy of first becoming a Christian
disappeared? Steven Lambert reveals some of the signs of an abusive church.
Elements
of Spiritual Abuse- Watchman article discussing seven reasons why some
people are caught up in abusive groups/relationships.
*Identifying
A Cult - Lists several definitions of a cult, identification marks, and
some results of the abuse. Originally from the Cult Awareness & Information Centre
web site.
Eleven
Marks of Perverted Authority- Warning signs to watch for, indicating
the possibility of an authoritarian group.
What
Do Churches and Cults Have in Common?- Are just non-Christian abusive
groups a cult, or do some Bible-based churches fall into this category? Are
any of these cult characteristics found in churches? Clete Hux explores this
question.
How to Determine
if a Group is a Destructive Cult- An article from the Factnet site,
describing three sets of criteria one can use to determine if a group may
be harmful.
How to Recognize
if You're in a Cult Group- An article from "Let Us Reason" ministries.
Covers some things to watch for, what to do when confronted to join, the
rights you have, and where the people in cults come from.
The
Bible and Spiritual Abuse- A well written lengthy article from
Ron Henzel (Rest Ministries) discussing real abuse from "abuse fad." Is
'spiritual abuse' "a sham label to be slapped on any Christian brother or
sister with whom we have an axe to grind? Or is it a real danger to the Christian
church?" What is the biblical evidence for this subject?
*Is Your
Church Free From Cultic Tendencies- A good checklist of questions to
answer in regard to a group.
*Characteristics
of Abusive Churches- Lists signs of abusive churches based on Ron Enroth's
books.
Are
You The Victim of Mind Control?- A Christian perspective.
Milieu
Control- Examples of mind control from several groups, including Boston
Church and Jehovah's Witnesses.
What
is a Cult?- Eleven signs to watch for in identifying a cult.
Introduction
to the Cults- More signs to watch for, such as the group doing all your
thinking for you.
Patterns
in the Cults- "However, just because you are a believer, do not ever
think that you could never be led astray and begin adopting some of these
patterns in your own life. Remember, these patterns are presented in a very
subtle fashion using Christian terminology and the Bible as a springboard!"
From Watchman Fellowship.
Scripture
Twisting Methods- Learn how abusive groups distort Scripture by inaccurately
quoting verses, twisting them, ignoring the context, and more.
*What
Improvements Are Needed in Today's Church?- Written by Gary Schooley.
Gary brings up some tough questions on what we allow as Christians and how
we need to find biblical precedent for what we believe.
*What
Improvements Are Needed in Today's Church? Part II- Gary Schooley's second
article covering the present debate on the validity of being 'slain in the
spirit'.
*Social Psychology And Group Dynamics- Jan Groenveld covers
psychological areas such as cognitive dissonance and mind control.
*Healthy
Faith Vs Unhealthy Faith- Unhealthy faith is a destructive, dangerous
relationship that allows something else, not the relationship with God, to
control a person's life. Originally from the Cult Awareness & Information Centre
web site.
The
Bereans- Christians should examine what they are taught, to see if it
is biblical. Truth shouldn't fear the scrutiny of man. From the Berean Research
Society site.
*Critical
Thought- An article by Martin Hunt, examining ways to think critically.
Giving more secular examples than religious, it should still help those who
simply accept what is told them as truth. We need to search for ourselves!
Controlling
Behavior: Public Enemy Number One- Kurt Howland, from the Apostolic Faith
Ministry, discusses why people feel the need to control others, how it is
accomplished and how to stop. Though not dealing directly with spiritual
abuse, it is somewhat relevant to our subject.
Spiritual
Pride: The Danger of Religious Flesh in the Christian Life- by Richard
Lovelace "Spiritual pride is very apt to suspect others; whereas an humble
saint is most jealous of himself, he is so suspicious of nothing in the world
as he is of his own heart. The spiritually proud person is apt to find fault
with other saints, that they are low in grace; ...and being quick to discern
and take notice of their deficiencies."
Clinical Update
on Cults- Michael Langone, in an article published in 1996, writes about
who joins a cult and why, what happens to them, what the therapist's role
is, and exit-counseling.
How Does Mind Control
Work?: A Technical Overview of Mind Control Tactics- Factnet article.
Coercive persuasion/thought reform is a behavioral change technology applied
to cause the adoption of an ideology. How is it distinguished from other
forms of teaching or even forced coercion? Can you be a victim and unaware
of it? Read about these topics and seven main tactics used in coercive
persuasion.
Mind Control and
Religion- A short piece from Factnet. Coercive persuasion is a process
that impairs rationality and is not a religious practice.
Overcoming
the Bondage of Victimization: A Critical Evaluation of Cult Mind Control
Theories Bob and Gretchen Passatino give their views that mind control
theories are flawed. They present what they feel will disprove "the cult
mind control model and instead affirms the importance of informed, biblically
based religious commitment." Lengthy.
*The Tale of Four Poplars- An article by Buddy Martin. "Now take all of what I have shared and see if it applies to a
transitional time in your life. When God's people find themselves
looking for another church, this does not mean that they are church
hoppers. In more cases than not, this is a work of the Holy Spirit.
The Spirit is at work in the transplanting business. The child of God
will be placed where he or she can grow the best."
What To
Do If A Friend Or Loved-One Joins A Cult- Someone you know is involved
in a cult or is considering joining one. What can you do? How do you approach
them? Martin Poulter gives his views.
*Ten Things
To Do If You Have A Cult Victim In Your Family- Short list from the web
site of the Cult Awareness & Information Centre.
*Fighting
Spiritual Abuse- Casey Bordovsky, a former UPC member, shares her thoughts
on how we can combat spiritual abuse on a spiritual level.
Cults:
What To Say When the Tacks Are Brass- Eric Pement gives some pointers
on how to speak with a person involved in a cult. He brings out a very good
point for us to remember and that is this: "We do need to pray against and
witness against false doctrine; we do not need to witness against people,
other than to expose their false teachings."
They
Told Me That If I Left...- Ron Henzel examines the tactics some leaders
use to keep members in their group. Will something terrible happen if you
leave? Will you go to hell? Will you backslide?
The 'Do's and The
Don'ts'- A brief list of things to consider when someone you know is
involved in a questionable group.
What
to do if Your Friend or Loved One is Recruited into a Cult- Practical Help
and Advice for Winning Them Back- From the Spotlight web site, written
from a Christian point of view, it covers if the group really is a cult,
marks of a cult, and being informed.
Starting
an Ex-Cult Support Group by Sharon Hilderbrant.
You may also wish to check of the area on
exit-counseling
on my other page.
Grace and
Works- Craig Branch talks about how cults pervert the Gospel, using the
examples of three different religious groups.
"Judge
Not..."- Well written article from the Darkness to Light web site. Discusses
judging verses proclaiming, with sections on adding to God's commands, abiding
by our own standards, and being patient and not so quick to judge our fellow
Christians.
Anti-Intellectualism,
Legalism, and the Cults- Another Darkness to Light article. "Whether
a Christian engages in questionable activities should be based on his or
her own walk with the Lord and understanding of Scriptures (Romans 14). Advice
should be sought from others and the Scriptures studied extensively; but
the final decision should rest with the individual and not with the leader
or leaders of some religious group..."
To Judge or Not to Judge:
The Rights and Wrongs of Biblical Discernment- Article by G. Richard
Fisher. The Bible mentions we are both to judge and not to judge, so what
is the difference between the two? Has the church lost the ability to discern
for fear of judging others?
There Ought to be a Law...Or
Should There? The Old Testament Law and the New Testament Church G Richard
Fisher states: "There are great misunderstandings and divisions among believers
in the area of law and grace as they affect sanctification. How much law
or just what laws do we need to obey to be sanctified? Arbitrarily imposing
certain portions of the Old Testament on the Christian life seems, at best,
inconstant, speculative and subjective."
Bible Translations
- An article by Buddy Martin that gives an overall view of the various types of Bible translations. There is a lesson behind the lesson!
*Dead to the Law- One of a series of articles by Mel Berglund,
a current member of the UPC. Though this does not specifically deal with
legalism/abuse, I feel it is relevant to include as Mel does a good job of
showing from Scripture how and why we are dead to the law.
*The Letter of the Law- The second in a series of articles
on the law by Mel Berglund. This one deals with trying to keep the detail
of the law and missing the big picture.
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