Posted March 26th, 2008 at 10:51 PM by heavenly7
I am fed up with my Pastors comments. I have been a member of a UPCI church for two years now. I came into this church when I met my Fiance. My fiance has been a member for over 14 years. I was looking for a church because, I had left the church where I was attending for 14 years. My background was from a NON-Denominational Evangelical church. I had some knowledge of the Pentecostal beliefs though my Fathers side of the family. In the very beginning I felt ok with everything and, adhered to all of there rules of holiness. I was told I had to get re-baptized the right way which confused me but, they gave me a Bible study called the "Keys of the Kingdom ". I went through that Bible study so fast and, they asked me if I remembered how I got baptized. I didn't remember so, they immediately told me that I should be baptized in the Name of Jesus to ensure that I was saved. I was baptized a week later and, felt like I was fitting in. However, I started noticing the extreme level of intimidation the members have towards there Pastor. I was told that any decision whether big or small had be brought to the attention of the Pastor. The majority of the members are living lives dictated by the Pastor. To question him is to be under rebellion and, considered to be in an apostate condition. I feel this constant pressure to prove myself because, I am not at the level of my Fiance. My fiance is a Board member, elder, Sunday School teacher and runs the bus route. After about 6 months of dating we are allowed to get engaged to be married. However, I was put under pressure to postpone the Wedding because, I had not paid my Tithes faithfully. The pastor felt I needed more time to grow and, I needed more bible studies. I told him I wanted to make it right with God and, so I planned on paying everything that I owed towards my tithes. I wasn't sure how far back I had gotten with my tithes so, I asked him how much did I owe. He responded and told me that I should bring my W2 forms and, he would calculate the amount. I was so bothered by this but, still did it any way. I made my final payment and, he told me: " Good, now I know how to pray for you !. I was so hurt and, asked him: " What do you mean ? " He said " Well, you don't have a curse anymore ". This was a blow to my heart. Especially during this time of my life where I am going through so much with my health. I lost my Kidney Transplant of 10 years because of rejection. Am I supposed to believe that because, I didn't pay my tithes that I was under a curse. What kind of Pastor tells someone this kind of thing ? My fiance has had problems with this Pastor the full length of his membership. But, because he so brainwashed he fears leaving this organization. I need advice, I am desperate and very hurt.