So we left and headed back 'home' I again learned the meaning of "you can't go home again".
After being married 5 years we began to doubt we would be able to have children (there were real medical reasons for this) so we adopted a beautiful, blond, blue-eyed 5 year old problem child. :) We adored him and still love him but after years of problems, today he is 40, an alcoholic, generally homeless but that is an entirely different story. Then almost 3 years later, God blessed us with a beautiful baby boy. But back to the church stuff.
My dad was ALJC, so my husband applied for ALJC license and got them so now he was both an ALJC and a UPC general licensed minister. We did some evangelizing and I did a puppet ministry.
My husband really enjoyed outreach a lot more than pulpit ministry; I felt then and now that he was pushed into the ministry by an overly enthusiastic mother who wanted ALL her boys to be preachers. Anyway, the UPC evidently got wind of this guy with license in both organizations and after ignoring this town for 20 years, suddenly felt 'led' to start a UPC church there AND told my husband he would have to attend the UPC church or give up his license. He decided to give up BOTH licenses and joined the USAF --no kidding! Really the license thing was just one catalyst, we also had financial problems and since the town was small, we were occasionally running into our son's birth family so put it all together and another move seemed like a good thing to do.
He ended up in special forces on a base out west and I searched for a church. The ALJC was closest but something seemed off. (I soon learned that a couple years prior, the pastor had taken his teenage son to the woods and pretty much beaten him senseless.) I never saw this kid so he must have been put in foster care or something, along with an older sister I never saw. The only child they had then was an adorable little 2 year old boy that I pray didn't suffer the same fate.
So moving on, I went to the UPC church across town. They had a daycare sponsored by the state. The state also bought them some beautiful indoor playground equipment that took up most of the fellowship hall. The 'church' kids (with the exception of the pastor's kids) were NEVER to play on this equipment, even though we had several social church events in the fellowship hall with the kids all looking longingly at the play stuff.
Lots of weird stuff in this church; the pastor even had a problem with watches other than plain banded timex ones, LOL.
Two good things happened in this town, one is we were were again blessed with a beautiful baby, a girl (after this, my medical condition made it impossible to have any more children), and I met a friend at this church who would become a lifelong friend.
At this time, my husband was on duty 24/7 for 3 days and then home for 6 so we joined our...