One Woman's Hair and Standards Experience

I thank you for your testimony.

I used to belong to a church that did not believe in cutting your hair. These women would often complain of headaches because of their long hair and the way they pinned it up tightly upon their head.

I was not brought up that way but I was looking for a church and they seemed like nice people, at first. But they started openly putting me down for wearing make-up, (I don't smear it on with a butter knife), in front of the entire church from the pulpit. They raked me over the coals because, according to them, I over-dressed.

I started feeling guilty and conformed to the way I thought they wanted me to look. After awhile I felt like a piece of my soul had died.

I even felt guilty when I went shopping for clothes or painted my fingernails, which was a no-no in their eyes. I started judging people. I wanted to be accepted.

I thank God that He showed me the truth. I didn't realize I was really judging them until He revealed it to me. He's a good God. I left that church and I feel so free.

I've discovered the difference between religion and relationship. Jesus Christ wants us to have a relationship with Him. That church made me feel like God was displeased with me all the time because of the way I looked.

God bless you.

P.S. I love my shoulder length hair.  :)


Posted March 17, 2002

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